I am in Montana this week visiting my mother-in-law and father-in-law. My father-in-law is in the final stages of Alzheimer’s disease. My wife, his daughter, is still the joy in his heart. The love these two share is immeasurable!!!
It amazes me that even though we don’t get to see him every day, no matter how far, he never forgets her!! We are both participating in the West-Central Minnesota Walk To Fight Alzheimer’s. You can check out my link to raise money and educate people on the facts of this disease, Right Here!!! If you can, please help me raise funds to fight this disease. You can donate if you wish, or share my link. I have less than 30 days to hit my goal of $2,000 raised.
That is not the only reason for this post. I want to educate people on Alzheimer’s disease and the trials it creates. Tonight, I listened to my father in law as he spoke of a time that was more than 30 years ago! Then, without warning he became very sad and jumped into another time in his life when a family member became badly burned. And it happened without a second of warning.
Alzheimer’s disease is worse than any tornado or hurricane. It rocks the worlds of everyone around to watch the devastation left behind. My father in law doesn’t remember his own wife of more than twenty years now. She works at his nursing home and it is devastating to watch. But, we all jump into his world. We don’t take him into ours.
He doesn’t remember his wife. He believes he still is doing construction work and orders around his crew with his ability that he knows how to get things done and get them done right. That is his world now. At night, it can get worse. It’s called sundowners. At that time we have to consistently remind him that we will get back out there and get back to work tomorrow. He still wants to go, go, go!
It is sad to watch, but don’t feel sorry for them. Just adjust to their world and become a supporting part of it no matter what that requires. I am in a wheelchair and I have been a member of his crew for a few years now. Why? Because that is who he needs me to be.
Check out my link again, Here and view the facts of alzheimers and if you have the means, donate and share this post so others can be educated and help when and where they can as well. I love you all and we are all in this together.